About Amelia
Like many victims of psychological trauma, Amelia V. Sinclair experienced the bootprints of sexual violation at a young age. In therapy as an adult, she was motivated by Pia Mellody's advice that it is important for trauma victims to "get their history straight." During the pursuit to organize her chaotic history, she kept copious notes which inspired her to write Remember To Forget, published from the strong desire that others may be helped by her story.
Sinclair admits that her passion for counseling high school students, after earning an advanced degree in counseling, is almost comparable to the spark ignited when acting with a seasonal repertory company in Southern California. But the true flame of her life is being married to her college sweetheart and having as best friends her two children.
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Special thanks to editor Kristen Hamilton, highly recommended. Connect with her at kristencorrects.com
Dear Reader,
In Remember To Forget, you will experience consequences I encountered as a result of trauma. Hopefully my pathway to healing will ignite your courage to heal, to boldly pursue wellness, driven by the belief that you can recover from the pain of the past.
Have you ever considered that without the fragments of memory linked together into a full picture of our traumatic past history, we may be doomed to remain helpless victims? It wasn't until I was in my thirties that I began to awaken to the impact of my history. It was then that I started earnestly digging into the chaos of my trauma-filled past. Why? Not only because I was an insecure person, an anxious person who frequently fell into the role of victim, but because suicide loomed as a serious threat.
However, in getting the full picture of our traumatic past, it isn't easy to recall memories of trauma. Maybe you are aware, as I once was, that some memories are so traumatic, they become shattered pieces the mind is unable to reassemble, unable to remember. My own excellent memory had perplexing periods of time that contained no memory. It was in therapy I learned that this kind of forgetting is the defense mechanism of dissociation, an unconscious choice the mind makes to deal with overwhelming abuse. But I was also unaware that my body had retained the forgotten memory of the trauma. In the nineteen-eighties, my trauma memories presented in therapy in a variety of distressing physical ways that always included painful emotions. My therapist referred to these as body memories. If you've had perplexing body experiences without understanding why or what they mean, my story may help you.
It was surprising that in addition to body memories, the trauma had also left me with a personality that had splintered into personality fragments. Each had its own voice and emotion with agendas that were often in conflict. You will meet these personality fragments and my journey of successfully integrating them.
You may want to know that I am free from the negative consequences of the past. Only occasionally do I experience a slender thread of discomfort when something in my present connects me to the wispy remains of trauma. And finally, I'm able to overcome my reluctance to publish Remember To Forget, motivated by a desire that my story may help you or someone you know.